Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Quiet Days

Do you enjoy quiet days? I do. In fact, I love them. I find them refreshing. Yes, they are lazy and decadent, but isn't that what makes them special?

Do we need them everyday? No...absolutely not. If that was the case, then these quiet days wouldn't be special. Instead, they would be the everyday. And then people would label me a lazy bum.

I like to spend my quiet days or my couple hours reading or watching movies/TV. You'll usually find me on the couch or in my room. It's like having my own personal fortress of solitude. I don't think about "other things" I could be doing or "stuff" that has to get done because there's ALWAYS something on that list! My sister once told me, "that I clean up to clean up." I totally get that. It's a never ending story at my house.

Quiet days are about recharging my batteries. I work full time and sometimes more time when work follows me home. Plus, as you know, I'm a mom so the work doesn't stop. Of course, mommy work is different. It's a mixture of fun, repetitiveness, busyness, learning, and discipline (and so much more).

A lot of people, moms especially, feel guilty for taking time for themselves. Why do we do this? Why is it so hard to let others help sometimes? Where did this superwoman mindset come from? It's mind boggling.

I concede that once you decide to have children a lot of the "me time" goes away and this is acceptable because priorities have changed (as they should); the same thing happens when you get married. You adjust and learn and eventually you find a new normal.

So, if you're running ragged what do you do?

  1. Plan- pick a time of day that works best for you. It could be early mornings or some point during mid week. 
  2. Do something you want to do. This can be as simple as doing a daily devotional, reading a book, watching your favorite show, going for a walk, crafting,  take a class or have lunch with friends.
  3. Ask for help. No one is silently judging you as being a bad person or mom.
  4. Repeat as needed
It's sometimes those simple things that can give us the most trouble at times, but really they can add significance to our days, life, mood, and/or well being. How do you spend your me time? Or what do you want to do that you have been putting off? 

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